Copy-on-write for record values (#12305)

# Description
This adds a `SharedCow` type as a transparent copy-on-write pointer that
clones to unique on mutate.

As an initial test, the `Record` within `Value::Record` is shared.

There are some pretty big wins for performance. I'll post benchmark
results in a comment. The biggest winner is nested access, as that would
have cloned the records for each cell path follow before and it doesn't
have to anymore.

The reusability of the `SharedCow` type is nice and I think it could be
used to clean up the previous work I did with `Arc` in `EngineState`.
It's meant to be a mostly transparent clone-on-write that just clones on
`.to_mut()` or `.into_owned()` if there are actually multiple
references, but avoids cloning if the reference is unique.

# User-Facing Changes
- `Value::Record` field is a different type (plugin authors)

# Tests + Formatting
- 🟢 `toolkit fmt`
- 🟢 `toolkit clippy`
- 🟢 `toolkit test`
- 🟢 `toolkit test stdlib`

# After Submitting
- [ ] use for `EngineState`
- [ ] use for `Value::List`

crates/nu-utils/src/lib.rs

@@ -4,6 +4,7 @@ mod deansi;
 pub mod emoji;
 pub mod filesystem;
 pub mod locale;
+mod shared_cow;
 pub mod utils;
 
 pub use locale::get_system_locale;
@@ -17,6 +18,7 @@ pub use deansi::{
     strip_ansi_likely, strip_ansi_string_likely, strip_ansi_string_unlikely, strip_ansi_unlikely,
 };
 pub use emoji::contains_emoji;
+pub use shared_cow::SharedCow;
 
 #[cfg(unix)]
 pub use filesystem::users;